Theories Part 3

1. Theory of Relationships- all forms of relationships can be associated to a parallel in nature. 

Mutualism which is a give and take in equal measure which is extremely rare,

Commensalism - where one is benefited and the other is not effected too much either positively or negatively- occurs when the 2 parties are too varied in scale- where one has so much to give in comparison to the one who can receive- (this is why scholarships exist), 

Parasitism - where one feeds on another's resources/emotions to gain energy to feed his weaknesses/complexes - this is very common in humans, 

Symbiosis which is a give and take and give relation where both win by a large margin- extremely rare.

Think back and see who is who in your life. 

2. Theory of Plants- each one has a psychological setup. Some people can be considered to be like :-

Grass- content, humble and at peace with their position in life- they don't need a lot to survive. These are people who are not even employees. People who have decided to be in their place and just get by... 

Shrubs- these are ones that fight for resources and are extremely aggressive but from a distance they seem petty. These are the people who are trying their best,for at least they evolved over grass...eg the ambitious employees.

The Trees! - Those that take the initiative to go deep and high at the same time - those that take the responsibility to cycle a lot of resources and make an amazing contribution to the environment around them, usually something out of nothing.- apart from all the other things that they provide. They provide shade... which is something that none of the others can do.

If there are trees, can the Creepers be far behind- some people are like creepers. They are parasitic in nature and not too hard to spot! You know what I am talking about. 

The good news is that you can consciously decide which plant to be.. And which plants you want in your life!

3. Theory of Interdependence - and interconnectivity- where the nature of the action will affect the reaction. Know that all your acts are never in isolation, everything that you do becomes a part of your passive identity and all actions you take thereon will originate from that self identity.

It can be an interesting exercise to deliberately undo that notion hence formed.. and act without referring to prior experiences. 

4. Theory of Depth vs Width - in any form of relationship one could aim at going as wide as deep for understanding another person.. Not only one could know the range of behaviors, moods, reactions a person can display but also the intensity to which he/she can do this. You could do this for each person or you could gather a repertoire of reactions by observing everyone you know. E.g In friendships, one can talk for 2 mins each day  to 100 or one can talk for 100 mins with two people in that day. The first case is that of going wide and second is that of going deep.