1. Theory of Specialization - one can give 100% subconscious attention to only one thing at one time (theory of subconscious prioritizing). This focus of attention is effortless and happens in phases which may last for a day, a week or even months.
2. Theory of Sequencing- the sequencing of specialization will usually not be same for any two people (especially friends). The sequence in which one experiences different dimensions of the same thing will influence his beliefs and values about it... If one has a happy experience before having to face disappointments, he might be more optimistic about the whole situation. This can also lead to awe on one hand and lack for consideration for someone who has different set of beliefs because his experience has been different at that point of time.
Which is why when two people of exactly the same age and similar upbringing meet, they may still have a lot to share and learn from each other.
This brings us to the important aspects of maturity.
- which is the ability to know/foresee, by observing others, that experiences much different from the ones we have had so far, lie ahead of us.
- the ability to understand and know the sequence of events in another's life can give you more consideration (empathy) and maybe even mental peace.. so that you don't end up wondering "how could she!?" this will bring us to :-
Theory of Time Spacing of Relationships - there will be people you will feel comfortable in talking to once a month, some once a week, some twice a week and some everyday. How people get divided into these slots is more subconscious than intentional. Upon facing some setback, one might have to shift a certain someone from one slot to another...which causes some people intense sadness.
You do have such slots.. don't you?
