The '+' Theory

Theory of Happiness - it is absolute, all within you, not dependant on anyone else. The more lasting the feeling, the more abstract it is. Once you generate the spark plug for it, it will never leave you, even when you may be crying. When you have found it, you know it for sure. Have you found it yet?

Theory of Permanence- upon wondering why spirituality is exalted over materialistic pursuits one may find that it is more permanent in its after effects. A lot of materialistic activities when reflected upon at a later stage seem to have been wasteful (those which did not contribute towards tangible growth). However being in touch with ones inner voice has dependable results. 

All good things are timeless.

Theories Part 3

1. Theory of Relationships- all forms of relationships can be associated to a parallel in nature. 

Mutualism which is a give and take in equal measure which is extremely rare,

Commensalism - where one is benefited and the other is not effected too much either positively or negatively- occurs when the 2 parties are too varied in scale- where one has so much to give in comparison to the one who can receive- (this is why scholarships exist), 

Parasitism - where one feeds on another's resources/emotions to gain energy to feed his weaknesses/complexes - this is very common in humans, 

Symbiosis which is a give and take and give relation where both win by a large margin- extremely rare.

Think back and see who is who in your life. 

2. Theory of Plants- each one has a psychological setup. Some people can be considered to be like :-

Grass- content, humble and at peace with their position in life- they don't need a lot to survive. These are people who are not even employees. People who have decided to be in their place and just get by... 

Shrubs- these are ones that fight for resources and are extremely aggressive but from a distance they seem petty. These are the people who are trying their best,for at least they evolved over grass...eg the ambitious employees.

The Trees! - Those that take the initiative to go deep and high at the same time - those that take the responsibility to cycle a lot of resources and make an amazing contribution to the environment around them, usually something out of nothing.- apart from all the other things that they provide. They provide shade... which is something that none of the others can do.

If there are trees, can the Creepers be far behind- some people are like creepers. They are parasitic in nature and not too hard to spot! You know what I am talking about. 

The good news is that you can consciously decide which plant to be.. And which plants you want in your life!

3. Theory of Interdependence - and interconnectivity- where the nature of the action will affect the reaction. Know that all your acts are never in isolation, everything that you do becomes a part of your passive identity and all actions you take thereon will originate from that self identity.

It can be an interesting exercise to deliberately undo that notion hence formed.. and act without referring to prior experiences. 

4. Theory of Depth vs Width - in any form of relationship one could aim at going as wide as deep for understanding another person.. Not only one could know the range of behaviors, moods, reactions a person can display but also the intensity to which he/she can do this. You could do this for each person or you could gather a repertoire of reactions by observing everyone you know. E.g In friendships, one can talk for 2 mins each day  to 100 or one can talk for 100 mins with two people in that day. The first case is that of going wide and second is that of going deep.

Theories Part 2

1. Passions -we are all blessed to have unexpected energy for activities which are unique to you ... i.e. the context with which you understand them is at such a deep level that it is almost a wordless abstract feeling so that expressing how you feel while immersed in that activity may be impossible.. things you are good at naturally, that you will like to be at  for long spans of time without money or reward and would like to see yourself involved in for the rest of your life. ..things you are always happy to return to.. things that make you feel enriched, long after you have been involved in them,  are your passions..

What are yours?

2. Escape Mechanisms- which I also call 'The Dope Theory' - a person will seek to create a comfort zone at all times by doing activities that are appealing to him but may not be useful to him and in this capitalistic world - useful means that which earns us monetary dividends.  This Dope causes non monetary gains. If you get rid of one form of dope another will inevitably take its place.. In 97% of the people. It may become hard to separate passions from escape mechanisms. But most of the time, passions are more long lasting...even when they may seem to subside, there will be no after thoughts or sense of regret towards having spent time/energy on them..and in your free time you will naturally gravitate towards that activity. not so for escape mechanisms.
What is your dope? - music? love? substances? games? friends?...

3. Theory of Negatives- those characteristics which become invisible while following one or the other escape mechanism.  The selective reality is picked out and expanded and dominated by the mind. This a byproduct of the Dope Theory mentioned earlier. These come back at you once you let go of one of the escape mechanisms.

 4. Theory of Intense Experiences :

is closely related to the NEED to have an intense experience. Some people have a more developed sense of complete immersion. Some people are able to concentrate on various aspects of one activity. Such a  hungry soul will keep looking for experiences it can immerse itself in. As a side remark this bring us to "Qualia" which refers to the subjectivity of the same experience in two different people... or in the same person at two different points of time e.g. no two people can hear and register a song in exactly the same way.  It is also why people read the same book twice and find something new in it..because they are not the same person anymore.

Such people are more creative and always seeking areas of interest that can help them manifest and make visible the intensity and oneness inside them. this brings us to the :-

5. Theory of Momentous Moments - slots of time when different passions co-exist and synergize, when life concentrates itself into these momentous moments. We all live in pursuit of these moments. However, did you know that these do not have to be limited in number - eg - birthdays, weddings, the first this or the first that... these things are usually over-rated. The good news is that If you find the right state of mind - the frequency of  such moments can be maximized... to once a day..Once an hour!!  and more...

6. Theory of Slide Ins -in momentous moments e.g. those that originate from goodness, unconditional happiness and  love will always feel like effortless sliding in... in short spans of time measurable in seconds, the mind releases all resistance and subconsciously says YES to a new experiences.. Now for any other mental activity this process of decision making should have taken a lot of thoughtful planning but in some situations it will feel like you travelled through time and you slipped from mode into another.

Theories Part 1

1. Theory of Specialization - one can give 100% subconscious attention to only one thing at one time (theory of subconscious prioritizing). This focus of attention is effortless and happens in phases which may last for a day, a week or even months. 

2. Theory of Sequencing- the sequencing of specialization will usually not be same for any two people (especially friends). The sequence in which one experiences different dimensions of the same thing will influence his beliefs and values about it...   If one has a happy experience before having to face disappointments, he might be more optimistic about the whole situation. This can also lead to awe on one hand and lack for consideration for someone who has different set of beliefs because his experience has been different at that point of time.

Which is why when two people of exactly the same age and similar upbringing meet, they may still have a lot to share and learn from each other.

This brings us to the important aspects of maturity. 

- which is the ability to know/foresee, by observing others, that experiences much different from the ones we have had so far, lie ahead of us. 

- the ability to understand and know the sequence of events in another's life can give you more consideration (empathy) and maybe even mental peace.. so that you don't end up wondering "how could she!?" this will bring us to :-

Theory of Time Spacing of Relationships - there will be people you will feel comfortable in talking to once a month, some once a week, some twice a week and some everyday. How people get divided into these slots is more subconscious than intentional. Upon facing some setback, one might have to shift a certain someone from one slot to another...which causes some people intense sadness.

You do have such slots.. don't you?